Your co-worker brings in her baby daughter for everyone to see. What’s the first thing you say when you see this beautiful bundle of joy? “Ahh, she’s so cute.” Then your body reacts in a happy manner; or, something similar. So, what happened to that precious little angel from that point that caused her behavior to change from innocent to vicious? Why is it that most women say they do not want to work for another woman? Why do men say they don’t want to be supervised by a woman? What is it about women leaders that freaks people out?
Well, most people like to refer to it as a hormonal issue. Is that what controls us? Is that what makes some women so damn difficult to be around sometimes? Why do some women rather have male friends than female friends? Does that make her a whore? Absolutely not. Does that make her more keen to what may turn sour in a matter of time? Maybe.
In the following, you will learn some deep-rooted secrets from husbands whose wives battered them. If a man allows this type of behavior to happen to him, is it consi
dered love, or is it fear? Does the fear play a role in his mind that if he retaliates, that he may hurt her greater than she has hurt him? Or, is he really afraid of her?
I want to thank Bert H. Hoff for granting Everything SHE permission to share the following excerpts from his website: Men Web. You may visit Bert’s site to read more on this subject.
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Story I
At age 42, I am 6’2″ and about 200 lbs. I have a solid background in wrestling and have dabbled in TKD and Judo. I am also a DV survivor. I am NOT a “victim!”
In the summer of 1993 my X came home drunk and on pain pills. I was asleep in “our” bed having returned from a charity event earlier that evening. I was awakened by her screaming as she came through the bedroom door swinging a baseball bat. She brought it down across my legs. I managed to avoid most of the blow and took the bat away from her by twisting it out of her hands. She went to the kitchen and got a marble rolling pin. She stood above me in the bed and swung the pin down at my head shattering the light fixture above us. I managed to block that blow with a pillow and trapped the rolling pin. Again I twisted the object out of her hands.
She left the room and I got up to get dressed to leave. As I started to get dressed I could hear her screaming as she approached the bedroom door “I’m going to kill you, you son of a bitch!” Instinctively I knew that she had retrieved my 357 handgun and I was prepared as she entered the bedroom. No, I didn’t hit her with the bat or rolling pin, and in fact, that option did not occur to me until I wrote this. No, I “locked” the cylinder and hammer with both hands so the gun wouldn’t discharge… and I twisted it out of her hands. She suffered a minor sprain to her wrist at that point as I was a bit “motivated.”
I unloaded the gun, finished dressing and left the house. I called her father from a pay phone in the hopes that he might be better able to deal with her. I did not call the police and I did not call a “shelter.” I stayed with family that night. The next day I went home and cleaned up the mess from the broken light fixture. Her response to the event was that she was giving me a “pretty major plea for a hug.” I guess I missed it in the translation.
Since we separated she has tried to run me down with her car. I did not report it to the authorities as I was afraid that the judge would further limit my contact with my child.
Story II
I am telling this for my brother. I am a woman and I have to say that I know all too well that abuse happens to men, too. It all began about 9 months ago, but it’s been a long 9 months. She only started out being verbally abusive at first, but the things she said were so sick and disgusting, every other word was the “F” word. She would accuse him of doing all kinds of sick things with everyone from my mother to the friend of my brothers that she had just met. She would go into wild rages in public places and scream and throw food. It didn’t matter where they were or who was there she would go off for no reason.
We (my mother and I) would plead with him to leave her but he felt like he could help her. She had had a troubled childhood,don’t really know exactly what, she lies so good and about everything. Four months ago they moved in together. After about a week after the abuse grew into physical attacks. They included scratching, burning with cigarettes,hitting with anything she could get her hands on, and biting. She would blow up and then be somewhat good for 6-12 days and it would start all over again. I’ve seen him with scratches down both sides of his face,she tried to ripe his ear off once and has burnt him on several occasions.
He never hit her back but would try to hold her of by grabbing wrists when she came after him, these were the only marks he ever left on her. He was bigger than her,he’s about 5’11″ and she about 5’4″,that just goes to show size doesn’t matter. Things kept going like this until about a week ago,she got really mad because he stopped by mom’s to move a TV for her. She bit him 10 times including twice on his genital area and his nose. As he tried to get out of the door she jumped on his back,as he threw her to the ground the police bust in the door. They throw him to the ground and slapped the cuffs on him. They took her to the hospital even though she had no marks on her. Luckily they arrested her too.
We got my brother out the next morning, she had to spend three days there. The judge ordered both of them to stay away from each other. My brother is doing that although she’s been trying to find him. I moved all of his things out of the apartment while she was still in jail. He quit his job so she couldn’t find him there and it was a good thing, she’s been there 4 times trying to find him. I just hope and pray that she never does, she won’t stop until he’s dead. this little gal is going to kill somebody I just hope it’s not him.
I would like to say he’s been to hell and back but he’s still got a long way to go to get back. We’ve tried to find help for him but all of the shelters just answer in silence. It’s a shame how he was treated by the police and that there are no shelters or groups to help men, they need it every bit as much as women. It’s time to stop offering help to someone just because they are a women. Abuse is abuse, it does matter how the abuser is or how the abused is.
These people need help and I suppose the only to change things is to speak out and to speak out often and loudly. Tell every one you can and bring it to the worlds attention, so if this story helps please us it any way you can. Thank you for having this place to speak out.
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Article: Bert H. Hoff
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